A friend of mine bought a brand new cell phone for his girlfriend. He doesn’t earn a ton of money and it was definitely a sacrifice for him. Upon receiving the phone, his girlfriend decides that instead of showing her authentic appreciation for what she received she’s going to complain about it instead. Apparently, it wasn’t the exact phone she was hoping to get and she thought it was more important that he was fully aware of this fact instead of being grateful.
The funny thing is, I know this guy pretty well, and if his girlfriend had shown even a smidgen of appreciation and had been more graceful in how she expressed her dissatisfaction, he would have eventually changed it or sold it to get her something she would have preferred. She had unfortunately crossed a major boundary and due to the principle of the matter, he felt hurt, angry and upset at her ungrateful reaction and unreasonableness. His girlfriend in this case just didn’t understand the sacrifice.
Somen women have a “Daddy’s Princess” mentality meaning that they have a difficult time recognizing and appreciating the little (and sometimes big) sacrifices a man makes for them. Other women are simply so self-focuesd and self-interested that they often disregard or underappreciate a man’s kindness. A good man with even an ounce of self-respect and common sense is either going to address this issue with you, or if he experiences it far too aften, he will simply move on.
This thing is that, most men secretly crave appraciation, but they’ll never admit it for fear of looking needy or weak. The more you appreciate a man, I mean REALLY appreciate him, the better he’ll feel about himself. The better he feels about himself the more confident he will be in his ability to love you, romance you, and make you happy.
Whenever you genuinely appreciate a man his value both to himself and to you greatly increases. If you want to make a man feel good about himself tell him all of the things you love about him, but be authentic. A man loves it when a woman can give him authentic appreciation. Paying him a compliment that he knows isn’t genuine will only make him feel as if you’re trying to sweet talk him.
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