Before we get into the signals themselves it's important to mention one or two things. First, despite what some books on body language claim, it's not really possible to read a person like a book, especially somebody you don't know well.
People are too complicated for this to be an exact science and signals can have several meanings. For example, if some one crosses their arms over their chest,it could indicate that they feel threatened and wish to create a barrier between themselves and another person; but it could also simply mean that they feel chilled and are trying to retain body heat. In this example as in most others, context can help you interpret the meaning of the gesture. Is the room cold? Or has the conversation turned to a topic that could make the person feel defensive or hostile?
In a dating situation, a woman may fidget with her hair because she wants to draw your attention, but it could also indicate that she's feeling nervous or bored. Your odds of reading the situation correctly increase if you happen to notice what people who study this sort of thing call "clusters of behavior " — that is, if she displays several behaviors that seem to support the same interpretation. For example, if she's fidgeting with her hair, and making a lot of eye contact, and smiling at you often, well, chances are real good that she's not bored with your company.
Finally, although an ability to read other people’s nonverbal signals is helpful in many areas of life, this introduction to the topic is narrowly focused on one life experience only 一 judging when the time is right to give her that first kiss. Once kissing is established as something a couple does in their relationship it's much easier to feel confident that your kiss will be happily received. It's that first one, and trying to figure out what your partner is thinking and feeling that creates hesitation and doubt for so many guys. For any guy who wants to up the odds that the moment is right and his date wants that kiss as much as he does, the signals he'll most want to watch for are these：
• She adjusts her body position
• She touches you
• She changes the conversation
•She shifts her gaze
• She delays leaving
• She draws your attention
She Adjusts Her Body Position
Not surprisingly, when reading a person's outside to determine what's going on inside, how they position their body provides numerous hints. When a person feels tense or disinterested they may have a closed off posture, folding their arms over their chest or tightly crossing their legs; they may also lean back or angle their body away from the person they're with, almost as if they're preparing to flee at the first opportunity. But if things are going well on a date, your partner's posture will probably look very different： open, relaxed, with arms uncrossed, her body turned toward you with feet, knees, arms or head pointed in your direction, indicating interest or attraction.
If she wants to be kissed, a woman may find a reason to move closer to you; for instance, straitening your collar or saying something that she doesn't want others to overhear. If she's already nearby, she may lean in, making it easier for the intimate contact of a touch or a kiss to occur. While near you, she may also tilt her head — something both humans and animals do when they register curiosity or interest —but this has the added advantage of putting her in a very good position to kiss, since people also tilt their heads while kissing to get the noses out of the way
She Touches You
She touches you casually during the date. It may appear as if she's hardly aware she's doing it, "accidentally" brushing against you, lightly touching your hand while talking. But that touch is almost never accidental. She's signaling that she likes you. If she wasn't attracted to you, it's unlikely she'd be introducing physical contact. Women are often first to break the touch barrier, because it's less apt to be seen as a move that could have ulterior motives.
She Changes The Conversation
Of course, the most obvious signal she can give you is to simply whisper in your ear, either playfully or seductively, something like "Let's kiss." Most of the time that's not going to happen, especially when it's a first kiss, but she may use a less direct approach by turning the conversation to romance. She may tell you how much she likes to kiss, or talk about a friend of hers who recently kissed for the first time. If you're watching a movie together and the onscreen couple kisses, she may say something about how romantic or sexy that is.
Even less direct than a change in topic is a change in tone. If you've engaged in playful banter or friendly teasing during the date, she may try to ratchet things up to an even more cheeky level in an attempt to get a reaction out of you. Keeping things light and playful has a way of making that first kiss seem less intimidating, and engaging in the give-and-take of good natured verbal jousting can help form a bond that makes a kiss feel like a natural next step.
The other way a conversation can shift in tone is to get quieter, with a light mood becoming more serious and intimate She may soften her voice, as if excluding the rest of the world from what she intends to say only to you. This practically forces the guy to lean in to hear what she's saying. The tempo of the conversation may also slow down, and there may be times when the conversation stops altogether, creating a space in which a kiss can take place.
She Shifts Her Gaze
During a date, how much eye contact she makes with you can indicate her level of interest. Looking deeply into someone’s eyes is one of the most intimate things we can do without actually touching. Of course, we look at each other all the time when we talk, but in normal conversation we mix this up with little minibreaks, glancing off as we gather our thoughts or take in the world around us. But when we're intensely interested in what is being said or attracted to the person saying it, we tend to fix our gaze on them for longer periods of time.
If you're at a point in the date where a kiss seems like a possibility and you're trying to gauge how receptive she'll be, her eyes may provide a tell-tale clue. If she's thinking about how nice a kiss from you would be, she may briefly glance at your lips. This may be done consciously, to let you know that a kiss would be so right with her, or subconsciously, with her gaze moving spontaneously to your mouth as she thinks about what it would be like to have your lips on hers. When she looks back into your eyes, if she adds an inviting smile, even better.
She Delays Leaving
At the end of the date she's in no hurry to leave. When the conversation has wound down and it seems time to separate, instead of sliding out of your car or going immediately inside her house, she lingers, maybe fiddling with her keys or finding other ways to stall. It may feel awkward because neither of you is really talking, but she may be hoping that you'll use this quiet moment to lean in and kiss her.
She Draws Your Attention
When a girl flirts with a date she finds attractive, she may employ little gestures that subtly encourage him to notice her physical attributes, small, seemingly casual activities such as handling a necklace or earring, adjusting clothes, or brushing back hair may be used to draw his eye to her face, neck or figure. She may do this playfully with a full awareness of what she's doing, or it may be done without any conscious awareness. For both women and men in a romantic situation, flirting comes so naturally that we can sometimes fall into it without effort or forethought.
If a girl is thinking about how nice it would be to kiss you, there are a number of ways she may try to focus your attention on her mouth: running her fingers across her lips, licking her lips or even biting the bottom lip lightly. Again, this may be an intentional signal, or it may be a natural, spontaneous reaction to imagining what the kiss would be like. Wetting her lips with her tongue has the added advantage of making the skin more soft, pliable and moist, and the stimulation can bring blood to the area, making the lips plump fuller and turn a deeper, blushing red, resulting in an even more alluring target for you to press your lips to.
Another type of signal to watch for is any pre-kiss prep work that indicates she may be getting her mouth ready to be in close contact with yours. Applying lip balm, or popping breath mints orgum (and offering you some as well), may be a sign that she's anticipating a kiss and wants to head off any mouth maintenance issues that could spoil the moment.
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