Men're prone to assume that women perceive attraction in the same way as men do. Science and psychology show that this isn't the case. Men often judge female beauty by physical traits first, personality and presentation second. They judge women by cheekbones, facial symmetry, waist-to-hip ratio, breast size, etc. Men often fall into the mistake that women judge men's attractiveness and masculine with the same metrics: obsessions with bench presses, height and penis.
Good-looking VS. Attractiveness
Physical measurements do play a role in how a man's appearance is judged but research also show how other factors are more important. Hence, there's distinction between being good-looking and being attractive.Not everybody is born good-looking. However, any men can also be attractive too with some time and effort. What women want is a man who is attractive.Many men believe that their physical appearance is set in stone and they rarely have any interest in altering it or making any major changes. What they don't understand is that the same man can present himself in varying ways, some of which are far more attractive than others. When it comes appearance and attractiveness, several points should be paid attention to. First, appearance is extremely important. Being perceived as stylish and unstylish is night and day. A man can be dressed masculine enough to get girls. However, the difference in the effort-to-reward ratio is massive. A make-over and wardrobe change can make meeting and dating women much more easily literally overnight. What's more, there're psychological side benefits of making you feel more confident, more interesting and more excited.
Self-investment makes you less needy
Your outward appearance is a reflection of your self-investment. Your level of self-investment will make you less needy towards others, thus making your behavior more attractive. If you don't put a lot of time and effort into how you look and how you present yourself to the world, women look at that and make unconscious assumptions about your status as a man.
Two factors on your appearance: Fashion & Fitness
A lot of men feel set in their ways and don't like the idea of changing the type of shirts they wear, or the haircut they've sported for years and years. They're also intimidated at the idea of standing out or looking too different from the people they hang around.
Unless you've spent a large amount of time focusing on fashion and style already, chances are what you think looks good right now is not accurate at all. The first step is to recognize what you don't know and there are a few rules to dress well:
1. Wear clothes that fit.
2. Wear clothes that match.
3. Dress to your personality.
Fitting is the key. You can have the nicest and most expensive clothes in the world but if they don't fit well you'll look like a clown. On the other hand, you can have some modest or even mediocre clothing. But if it fits well and you're in decent shape, you'll look quite good. Fit makes a massive difference and the change is immediately apparent. The first step is to overhaul your wardrobe thoroughly. Pull out anything and everything that does not fit well. You should always be clear about your measurements. Jeans should also never slip off your waist without a belt. Most men wear jeans that are too large for them and feel awkward then they first put on a proper-fitting pair of jeans. They feel tight and uncomfortable first. But this is normal and you'll get used to them in time.
Matching: men have an unbelievable knack for being oblivious to colors and how to coordinate them. Matching is simple as long as you are clear of the following points:
1. Your belt should match your shoes and/or your accessories;
2. If you're wearing dress pants, your socks should match yoru pants;
3. If you're wearing jeans, your socks should match your shoes;
4. Your accessories must be in a single color such as all to be gold or silver.
If you start with the most fundamental basic tips as above on improving your appearance, it's impossible to not see major benefits within a few months. Your regular exercises and improvements will make you feel better, boost your confidence, increase your moods, and can even save you a lot of money.
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