The most important rule of emotional connection is to related to feelings, not facts. Seduction is about feelings, not facts. This is why you can often meet a woman who shares a lot in common with you — same hometown, same occupation, same interests, lives on the same street — and have no connection or chemistry whatsoever. But then you can meet a women who has lived an entirely different life from you, but if you can relate to the emotional struggles and emotional realities that she’s gone through, you can connect deeply with her.
She may be a rich girl whose father died when she was eight and who was sent to boarding school, and you may have had to work your way up from poverty in India and them move to the USA, but emotionally, you can relate very deeply — the alienation from home, growing up with no sense of family or support other than achievement, feeling isolated by your talent.
Everybody on this planet shares a handful of universal emotional realities: ambition, shame, alienation, loneliness, achievement, regret, hardship, friendship, love, heartbreak. We’ve all experienced it. The facts change, the feelings are the same. I don’t care how shallow or dumb or weird or annoying she is, she has it somewhere in her. It’s your job go dig it out and connect with it. That’s where the gold is. That’s where the real magic happens. Challenge yoruself to find it. Because once you do, you’ll never go back.
And the biggiest misconception about generating a strong emotional connection is that it obligates you to some sort of commitment. It doesn’t. Although it’s more likely to cause you two to want to commit to one another, a relationship commitment is an intellectual construct, emotional connection happens organically on an unconscious level.
Be careful though, some women will feel cheated if you get too close to them without following through on any sort of commitment. Our culture has hammered it into women’s head that emotion equals commitment equals happily-ever-after, but that’s just rarely the case. So make sure when you connect with women on a deep level, they can handle it — they’re conscious enough to understand your expectations and that just because you feel a lot with each other, you’re not necessarily obligated to one another.
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