All your efforts and time will pay off once you start going out on dates. Happiness in a relationship need to be maintained and managed. You need to go from virtual to reality to evolve yourself as well as your relationship, to turn it into a part you really enjoy in your life.
If you’re carrying old relationship baggage, it will be best to stay single for a while. Many people suffer when you unload all your frustrations on your brand new partner. You will be forced to end the play before the actors accurately introduce themselves. Make a clean slate before you start anything new. You will be happier if you wait a while to gain some perspective.
The Dalai Lama said that happiness comes from your own attitude, and it's not determined by external factors. So if you are not happy when you are single, a new partner can keep you happy only for a while. If you are searching for an ideal partner, don’t look anymore, because perfect is an illusion. Your ex had flaws, you have flaws and every other human being on this planet has flaws. That is how you’ll know someone is meant to be yours forever: when you see their imperfections and you love them anyway.
In time, the butterflies will fly out of your stomach and your rose colored glasses will become foggy. You will have to remember the things that swept you of your feet and cherish them. Those moments will inspire your mutual growth as a couple. Many people become lazy and refuse to work on their relationship once it goes past the lovey-dovey stage.
Unfortunately, every couple grows past this stage, it's impossible to avoid it. What comes after that stage is the real love. The love full of respect, support and caring for one another.
The biggest mistake you can make is the synthesis of you and your partner into one being and forgetting to work on yourself. Forgetting who you were when you first started going out, your values and interests. Keep in mind that the person you were before your relationship is the person your partner fell in love with, so don't conceal it. Let yourself grow as you develop your mutual bond. When you and your loved one grow as individuals, your partnership grows with you. It becomes stronger and your bond becomes bullet-proof. An invincible relationship needs to evolve. Think of every rough patch you go through as a game level you need to play out to get to the next one.
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