Just about everybody knows what a French kiss is. It's the kiss that gets the tongues involved. But what do you call the kiss that doesn’t have any intermingling of tongues? You know, the lips only one that usually starts things off? The truth is there is no widely accepted name that is specific to that kiss. It gets lumped into the broad category of "Kissing" along with a lot of other possible lip and tongue maneuvers. That's too bad, because if it did have its own name it would be much clearer that this simple, elegant, subtly erotic and very romantic kiss is a destination and not just a quick cursory stop on the way to more probing tongue action.To help rectify this naming oversight, in this chapter,will be referring to it as the Basic Romantic Kiss.Basic because this is the first kiss most people ever give to a new partner, and the kiss most established couples use to express affection or to start things off even when their goal is to heat things up. And Romantic because, well, it is. It's the ideal kiss for establishing an emotional bond, a connection that makes any intimate contact that may come later more meaningful and intense.
This kiss goes beyond other simple forms of physical contact such as holding hands or hugging, yet it fits in with the sweet, romantic mood of those gestures. Speaking in general terms, if the French Kiss is about sexual desire, the Basic Romantic Kiss is about love and feeling. It's the kiss of our ideals and deepest affection, just as the French kiss is an expression of libido.
The Basic Romantic Kiss also feels great. Don’t let the paragraph above mislead you into thinking it doesn't. This kiss is indeed romantic, but it has an earthy side to it that can pack a considerable impact. And though its sexiness is more subtle than the French kiss, it has its own ability to take a partners breath away. Our lips have over a million nerve endings, making them, along with the tongue, the most nerve packed area of the body. Also, the part of the brain dedicated to receiving sensory input from our lips is disproportionately large.That means even a light brush of lips upon lips can send shivers down the spine and switch on the pleasure centers of the brain.
If you’re a guy who’s concerned that his partner will get bored pretty quickly with such a basic kiss, think again. The number one complaint women have about the way men kiss is that they begin using their tongue too soon; that means too soon when a new couple first begins kissing and too soon when an established couple decides to get romantic.
To put it another way, the change most women wish their partner would make when it comes to kissing is that he would spend more time using just his lips on her lips and skin. That doesn’t mean women don’t love French kissing, too. Most women do. It simply means that the Basic Romantic Kiss has its own magic and women want to fully experience that as well.
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