The Tongues Meet - Now What?
If this is your first French Kiss, when your partner responds to your invitation and slips their tongue out to touch yours, you may wonder, "What next?The short answer is. Whatever feels good to you and your partner. There is no right or wrong way to French Kiss, so, we feel our way through the experience, letting our partner's responses and our own pleasure lead the way. As you probe and explore each other's tongue and mouth, you’ll discover moves that you both like, as well as moves that you'll probably decide to take a pass on next time.
For most people, a soft, gentle touch usually makes for a sexier, more sensual French Kiss. To get an idea of how much tongue pressure to use think about how you might lick a soft serve ice cream cone. Rather than trying to overpower your partner, take your time and savor each sensation. You may experience passionate moments when it does feel right to quicken you moves and press in with greater firmness, but tongues are sensitive things and a little bit of that can go a long way, so, after brief periods of increased intensity, you may want to return to gentler sensual play.
Although kissing feels best when partners' energy levels are fairly closely matched, in a long make-out session there may times when you're leading the action, and other times when your partner is. But even when you're being less active than your partner never let your tongue become completely idle for more than a moment or two. As kissing styles go limp and lifeless just doesn't work, because it's not much fun for the partner on the receiving end. If you get tired (and lips and tongues do sometimes), simply take a break from kissing and, later on pick up where you left off.
As you kiss, don't forget to stay tuned into your partner's verbal and non-verbal cues. Of course, deep sighs, little moans, and responsive kisses from your partner leave little doubt that what you're doing is working for them. On the other hand, if your partner signals the opposite — that he or she is uncomfortable for one reason or another — take a step back into kisses they do seem to enjoy, and the next time you try something new skip what didn't get a positive response.
If you've been kissing your partner for a while and you find yourself momentarily running short on inspiration, an easy way out of that mini-slump is to pay attention to how your partner is kissing you, and, then begin by exploring your partner's tongue with light licks, sliding across the surface in a give-and-take rhythm where you react to your partner’s moves while making moves of your own. The first few French Kisses usually involve mostly the tip of the tongues, but vary this as things progress, by also including the broader, flatter surfaces of the top and bottom of your tongue in some kisses. Conduct little experiments to discover kiss him or her the same way. People often give their partner the sort of kisses they like to receive themselves, so this is also a good way to learn about the type of kisses your partner finds enjoyable.
Another way to keep things fun and interesting during marathon stretches of French Kissing is to make sure that you have more than one or two moves in your repertoire. To add variety to your tongue kissing, try out these moves in various combinations with other kisses discussed throughout the rest of the book.
Exploring Your Partner’s Tongue and Mouth
Though you’ll want to mix in other kisses, most people come back to touching tongues again and again in a long make-out session because, for many, it does feel like the ultimate kiss. The act of intermingling tongues in a slow dance feels so intimate that it can stay thrilling for hours, especially when you're with someone you really connect with in other ways.
What feels best to you and your partner, gently massaging, poking, lapping, flicking and wrestling with each other's tongue.
• When the moment feels right, tease your partner, slipping your tongue lustily in and out of their mouth several times, before retreating back into your own mouth as away of inviting (or daring) your partner's tongue to follow.
• Venture further into your partner's mouth as things heat up. Try running your tongue slowly up and down the length of their tongue. (This feels very sensual, but there's one caveat: Don't travel so far back into your partner's mouth that you cut off their oxygen or cause them to gag, neither of which is sexy or fun.)
•For another highly pleasurable tongue maneuver, make slow circles around your partner's tongue, allowing your tongue to caress each side.
•At some point, you may want to urge beneath your partner's tongue, sliding the top of your tongue back and forth across the underside of theirs.This is a spot that often gets little or no attention, and the good feelings this move creates may especially delight a partner who's unused to much contact here.
• The roof of the mouth is a surprisingly sensitive, pleasantly ticklish area that also gets overlooked frequently —move your tongue over its bumpy texture and gauge your partner's reaction. Other places for the adventurous to explore are the inside of a partner's cheek and the space between their inside lip and upper teeth.
• When your partner enters your mouth, a very erotic move is to close your lips around their tongue and begin gently sucking. To make this move even sexier, massage your partner's tongue with the tip of your tongue, or slide your lips slowly up and down their tongue while maintaining a light suction.
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