I know what it's like to be in a relationship and know that something isn't right but still find it difficult to leave. But, I’ve come to understand that God wants so much more for us. He wants the best, in fact. The stress of being in the wrong relationship is just not worth it, never mind the time and effort that could be put into something more meaningful. Here are 10 signs you're in the wrong relationship. I’ve written this from a woman’s perspective, but most of it applies to both sexes.
1.He doesn't define the relationship.
You’ve been seeing this guy for a few weeks or even a few months and he still hasn’t defined the relationship. You don't know if you're just his pal, his girlfriend or fiancee! You try to ask him where the relationship is heading and he says something like, I’m just seeing how it goes, I’m not in a hurry to label “us”.
The truth is, a man that knows what he wants, won’t lead you on. He won't keep tugging at/our heart strings whilst he tries to decide whether you’re right for him or not. My advice to you is to be really honest with yourself and ask him to be really honest with you. Be careful though; I'm not saying you should put pressure on someone to define a relationship when you are both obviously still trying to get to know each other. That could send off the wrong signals. But, you do need to know whether the person you're with sees you in their future or not.
2.You don't have peace in the relationship.
You fight / quarrel a lot, and you don't seem to agree on a lot of things. You're constantly on edge, or worried about the relationship. He hasn't called. You can't sleep. You're always on the phone lamenting to your best friend about what he's done or not done.
Like someone once said, 'if you're always crying in a relationship, ask yourself, 'am I dating a human being or an onion?!" It may sound ridiculous but the Bible says that God’s blessings enrich our lives, and He adds no sorrows to it (Proverbs 10:22).
If you're constantly worried about a relationship, you need to take some time out to decide if it’s something you need to work out within yourself, or whether you do have reason to worry Again, l’m not saying that the right relationship won't have any issues, but in a good relationship, you’re able to work through issues, and the relationship does not because you stress.
3.You don't feel like you're special to him.
He doesn’t make an effort with you. You make an appointment to meet up or do something together but he always seems to forget or cancel last minute. He doesn't seem sympathetic to your personal struggles. When you’re in the right relationship, you will feel special. Your partner will make time for you. Selflessness is a mainstay of the relationship and this goes both ways.
4.He's reluctant to introduce you to his family or close friends, even after you’ve been together for some time.
This period of time may vary between different relationships. But when you've introduced a guy to your friends and family and he’s still dragging his feet with reciprocating, and without much valid reason, this could be a cause for concern, especially if some of the other points also apply.
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