Your online dating profile is much like your first impression. You want your images to represent the best description version of yourself. Drafting your online dating profile, you should take care about your images, your profile description, how much should you include. Moreover, you should realize what men wish you knew about dating profiles.
I’ve used this combination of images with many of my clients：
□5 images
□main profile is a clear photo of your face
□second photo is one that shows your full body (because men are physical creatures)
□third photo is one of you in your happy place (doing whatever you love i.e. at the beach, traveling, snow-boarding...etc.)
□fourth photo is one of you with friends/family/dog
□fifth photo can be another candid shot of your face
The idea of using this combination is that it show what you look like from head to toe but also gives men an idea of what life is like with you.
Tip1: I would suggest asking a friend to take your photo or help choose your online dating profile Research suggests that your friends/family actually have a better perception of your best photos than yourself.
Tip2: I would also avoid taking too many selves. You want the images to portray your natural, relaxed self and sometimes that version of you doesn't come out in a selfie.
Your profile description
Many women tell me how 'boring' men are sometimes with their opening lines... they tell me how unoriginal it is when men write ‘hello’ in their firs message and then nothing else. More often than not. Men send generic one-liners because the profiles they see don't give them much to work with.
When writing your profile, include things that spark interest and curiosity. Do you have an interesting hobby i.e. blogging, juggling, dish spinning...etc? Mention that. Have you traveled to every country around the world? Mention that If someone were to sum you up in 3 sentences, what would they say? Ask your friends and then use their answers to help you craft your online dating profile.
Just how much should you include...
Issues of safety and privacy become an issue when you have children. The problem that most women have is knowing just how much information to give strangers. You can share as much or as little information as you like. But if your children are a huge part of your life, you may want to mention it in your profile.
When crafting your profile, always consider how you want your words to make others feel. A good example:
"Single and let loose in my forties, I am waiting for the adventure of my life to start. I am only interested in men who know what they want and are willing to reach out for their dreams.”
This example is honest - you are newly single in your forties and you're not making a drama of it. You are also tempting a man to look further. A good profile is an honest one. but you also have to think about how men see that profile and what they envisage when they read it. You also need to have the following boundaries for your own safety:
□ Try to avoid to give too much information about where you live
□ Try not to show photographs that give away your location
□ Never suggest that you will meet people or are open to meetings in your profile. This can happen as a natural result of your relationship developing.
□ Never give your personal details such as phone number.
Tip: If your dating site profile is linked with your Facebook, clean up your Facebook so that no information can be gleaned from it that will help a stranger to turn up on your doorstep. You need to keep yourself safe at all times.
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