Have you every thought that a proper first message will impress her and your further relationship with her will be more possible? Luckily for you, figuring out how to create an effective and charming first text message to her that will lead to a good response and your first date, is not very hard. This section is going to walk everyone through the subject. When it comes to making your impression the first time you meet her, you have count-less tools at your disposal to create interest, such as power, warmth, and your personal presence. However, with text messaging, you are using a limited means of communication and have to get creative and efficient with expressing yourself on your phone screen. This can be hard, but it’s more than possible. Simply follow these guidelines:
Please don’t do the following:
Be Generic in the Text: A basic “Hey”, “What are you up to?” or “What’s up?” text message is too common and shows absolutely zero effort or personality. More often than not, these text messages will be forgotten and ignored. They are not a good way to start a conversation.
Use bad Grammar: This might seem overly prissy or superficial, particularly when it comes to text messaging, but poor grammar or spelling will hurt your chances in dating this girl. It might simply be a subconscious reaction on her part, but take the extra time to use correct punctuation, grammar, and spelling.
Use Pointless Talk: It’s nice to chat with someone over text about how your day is going, but sending endless texts back and forth about what you’re doing at work, or a movie you just saw makes it too easy to never take things to the next step. Try to be quick and to the point in these beginning stages, instead of allowing your conversations to trail off into nothingness. The odds are too high that you will never see her again if this happens.
Be Disproportionate in your Responses: Try to keep the flow of conversation balanced, even if it’s just a text talk. Sending a bunch of texts in response to one text message, or going on and on in a text in response to a short message, are both not advised. Don’t come across as too excited or eager, which can turn her off before you have a chance to get to know her better or finally go on that date. Also try not to text back within two seconds of her message, which can come across as needy and a bit desperate. We will discuss more about this in the next section.
So what should you do when you decide to send the first message to her? Here are some useful tips for you:
Mention your Meeting: When you first text her; make sure that you mention the original interaction you two had in person. Prove that you were paying attention and care enough to remember what you guys discussed when you met. For instance, you can thank her for a recommendation she gave you for a song or movie, or refer back to something funny that happened the night you first met her.
Be Specific in your Invitation: Next, you need to give her an invitation for something specific, at a certain place and a certain time. Do not bother going into the endless texts back and forth with pointless and boring banter. Instead, be direct and clear about where, when, and what you want to do with her. Being straightforward and confident is the only way to go with this. If for some reason she isn’t available that day, but appears to want to see you, you can give her an option for two different days, such as Friday and Saturday, then ask her which is best for her. This allows her to make the choice herself and give you a direct answer to your question.
See? It’s actually not difficult at all to send her a proper first message. Keep in mind of what I said and you will be the winner in the dating with her.
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