Just as seeking for the right information you need the most, finding a soul mate online requires your effort and patience. You need to identify what you’re exactly looking for. How much do you know about yourself? What are you looking for from the right person you want to be your life partner?
Once your personal confidence is in place, you're ready to start looking. But what exactly are you looking for? Before you get carried away, let’s not sit down and start making lists of every single thing that would make a person “perfect”. The important thing to remember is that you aren't creating your perception of a perfect mate — you're looking for another real person.
The first thing to be aware of is the superficial traits you look for. Everyone has physical preferences, and that's fine, but are they serving you well? Obviously, you don't want to let go of them completely. If you're gay, you wouldn't start looking at people of the opposite gender, and if you aren't attracted to older people, you wouldn't look at dating some-one twice your age. Other preferences, however, probably shouldn't be held so hard and fast Examples of this would be traits like specific height, skin color, eye color, or hair color. By saying, "only date blondes," you are cutting out a vast amount of the given population who could potentially be your soul mate.
Rather than placing importance on petty, superficial traits, make a list of attributes you would want your soul mate to have. Start with the ones that are the most important and work your way down. You may think that it's not necessary to write down certain characteristics, such as kindness, but if it matters to you, include it. Continue with social, political and religious considerations, as you have them. If it is imperative that you date another Jewish person, or that the soul mate be politically moderate, put it on the list. The old adage regarding not speaking about religion or politics on first dates, needs to be disregarded. It would be terrible to find out six months after the start of a relationship that you are incompatible due to a non-negotiable on either side. However, it is also good to note that some couples came together precisely because they were unaware of something that might have seemed very important at the beginning. Once they were in love, that particular fact was no longer a valid deal breaker.
Finally, consider attributes that you feel would make a relationship enjoyable. These can be adjectives such as spontaneous, stable, quiet, or comical.
This way, when you start going out and proactively searching for Mr. Ms. Right, you know what questions to ask. This helps you get to know the person and go beyond the often surface level profile questionnaires provided by the dating sites.
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