Sometimes we fall into a trap where it’s easy to place the blame on your partner or spouse, even for the most mundane of tasks. You assume that they should know your expectations. You feel like they should be aware of how you want something, done whether it’s work around the house or remembering that you wanted to do something fun this weekend. You forget all about the positive things you wrote about them. As much as possible, avoid criticizing your partner. You have to watch your thoughts and your words.
If you think negative thoughts about your partner, Immediately replace that thought with a positive one. The less you think negatively about them, the less you will be tempted to say your thoughts out loud. If you are on the verge of saying something hurtful or negative to your partner; stop yourself. Think of how hurt you would be if your partner said something hurtful to you. When you stop being critical of your partner, your partner will also eventually become less critical of you. say affirmations to your partner often. Let him/her know how great he/she is with the kids or how great he/she is at their job. It's easy to dwell on the things that you don't like and the things that go wrong but don’t fall into the trap. There are books and people everywhere that believe in the power of positive thinking. If you believe in your partner, if you truly believe that your relationship can be saved, then the power of positivity can make those thoughts become a reality. So, when in doubt, visualize yourself and your relationship as a happy place.
Never underestimate the power of appreciation. Appreciation is a powerful language of love that can heal all wounds and repair broken relationships. Yes, you may be unhappy about certain aspects of your relationship or certain things that your spouse or partner does, but if you let them know that you appreciate them regardless; your significant other will know that you care. A simple compliment or remark could get your partner to try that much harder to please you. Think of that when you want so desperately to tear them down for doing something wrong. Reward your partner for the good and try to take the not so good in stride.
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