Goals such as eating healthy meals or vegan or gluten-free meals can be important for you. When someone you live with doesn't support your food goals, there can be greater chances of conflict. Not that conflicting food habits cannot be managed harmoniously, however they may be an indication of deeper issues.
For instance, while you may be focused on eating balanced and nutritious meals, your partner may forever be craving high sugar meals. They may be indulging in binge eating sessions, which may be the result of deeper underlying issues such as stress, anxiety, low self-esteem and more. Can you put up with someone whose food habits and intake do not match yours? Are you unable to deal with the deeper issues that lie behind the faulty food habits? Does your partner often make fun of your food and health regime because they feel intimidated? Negative attitude for a partner’s meal preferences and fitness habits may often be self-protection tactics.
If you are in love with an addict or compulsive alcoholic, are you prepared for the impact it will have on your life? If you are thinking long-term commitment and children, are you able to handle the impact on the life of your loved ones? If you are the addict, do you see yourself pulling more people into an already complicated life? Are you willing to give up your addiction to be with your partner and raise a family in future?
If your partner is an alcoholic or addict, are you prepared to deal with someone who may constantly behave irrationally, get sick, lie or indulge in unacceptable behavior? Do you see them as an ideal role model for your future children?
Are you ready to bear the brunt of the damage they can potentially cause? Are you prepared to yourself through the physical, mental and emotional trauma you may be subjected to? Are they likely to give up their addiction with support, encouragement and help from you?
Are they willing to undergo counseling, therapy, treatment or rehabilitation for their addiction? Does your partner display signs that point to a refusal for giving up the addiction? Does your partner encourage you to be an addict? Do you find yourself displaying more addiction related tendencies after your association with them? Do you find yourself changing constantly to adjust to their addiction driven behavior? Do they give more priority to the addiction over your relationship? Assuming they don’t change, are you willing to accept and live with the addiction?
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