Expression on your face and words you say the moment you go home will affect the whole atmosphere of the family. Therefore, no matter how unhappy things you’ve went through in the daytime, please shut those bad emotions outside before going home. Your family members, especially your kids source of your support and expectation on life rather than objects for your bad emotions.
Look at this story first:
One day the mother went home after work and she found her son watching TV the moment she opened the door. Filled with strong anger in her heart: “how dare you watch TV since you can’t even be listed in the top 3 in your class?”
Her 17 year old son vented : “I was just back home a moment ago and turn on the TV for just several minutes. I had already been studying very hard. Why are you always so angry to me?”
With strong anger, the mother continued : “I won’t give you the second opportunity to take part in the college entrance exam. If you can’t be enrolled in a college, I will beat you to death and it doesn’t matter as you are my son!”
Suddenly the house was just like a volcano and the moment the young son wanted to go outside for a release, he saw a hammer at the gate and hit her mom heavily. A severe tragedy happened due to bad emotion and expression of the mom.
Reflecting ourselves sincerely, we will find that most conflicts in family are from expression of family members the moment they step into the gate of the house.
Kick Cat Effect
In psychology, there is a Kick Cat Effect, which describes a bad emotion contagious process. Unsatisfied emotion of bad mood of people will be transferred as per grades and strength of the social relationships, from the top position of the pyramid to the bottom layer and the element which has no venting channel will become the final victim. If the victim can’t bear anymore, tragedy will happen.
First Impression Effect
Why expression on your face the moment you go home is so influential? First Impression Effect can also explain this. This term fully explain that the first impression you give others in a social occasion will predominate all other factors. Though the moment you go home may not the first time you meet your family members but it’s another time you meet them in a whole day. At that time, expression on your face tells your family members everything about your whole day and this will affect your state in the evening and even your emotions and behaviors hereafter.
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