When you’re focusing on getting physical and assertive with women, don't worry about approaching. A very common form of avoidance for men who are terrified of later stage parts of dating women — escalating, dates, sex, etc. is that they'll actually use approaching women as a form of avoidance. They'll have a beautiful woman totally enrapt with them, and instead of seeing how far they can push things, they'll take her number and move on, because they tell themselves they want to keep working on approaches. When approaching is not their problem. Getting sexual with women is!
Again, some self-awareness is critical. Take things one at a time, stair-step them slowly until you get not only comfortable with it, but excited about it, and then move on to the next thing. That excitement and enthusiasm will bleed over into the next form of anxiety and motivate you to keep going.
If this sounds like a lot of work, it’s actually not. It’s actually way less work. If you are afraid of meeting women, then it means just starting with the simplest step: ask for the time, join a dating site, ask a friend to introduce you. And then take it one step at a time, each step challenging yourself to do a bit more than before. It’s actually quite simple and if you’re focused about it and don’t get distracted with all sorts of mundane and extraneous theory, it’s very straight-forward and can be accomplished quickly.
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