There are so many people in the world looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right in all the wrong places. They sit at home and feel sorry for themselves because they can't find that ideal partner. Little do they know but it is their attitude that is stopping them from actually finding their true love. Mr. and Mrs. 'Desperate to find someone' are going to continue to feel dissatisfied with their love lives because what they are doing is putting people off. By being so desperate to find a partner, they forget all about the importance of being a true individual. They crave attention. You see them at the local bar and they are on the hunt for someone to notice them.
Have you learned who you are as a single?
The problem with this kind of thinking is that the kind of person you want to find isn't out there looking for you. In fact, if they were, chances are that you would end up with a relationship that goes nowhere because you are both too dependent upon a relationship and haven't actually learned who you are as a single person. Being single and alone doesn't have to be sad. It can be a wonderful time of discovery and yet so many men and women seek out other souls because there doesn’t seem to be anyone else they can find who will go out with them. Does this sound familiar?
Mr. or Mrs. Right is busy with their world. They are happy, well balanced people who have lives. The reason that they are not looking for you is because they have lives. If you feel that you need a relationship and that you are incomplete without one, the only kind of person you are likely to attract is someone who will use you and not only that, you will let them. People use their need of a relationship because without it, they feel incomplete and that's really a very unhealthy way to look for the love of your life.
Have you learned how to live alone?
If you are unhappy as a single, chances are that you will still be unhappy in a relationship that you are so desperate to begin. The reason for this is that your unhappiness follows you. You can’t survive without someone else and haven’t yet learned how to live alone and love your life. If you are single, use this opportunity to get to know yourself. Feel the freedom of being able to eat jam sandwiches in the middle of the night if that's what YOU want Feel that great feeling of not being answerable to anyone. Learn what you like and enjoy it. Learn to love being single because when you do, the Law of Attraction kicks in. The Prince Charming you used to search for will suddenly happen into your life because you are no longer searching.
So how does that work? The fact is that the ideal husband or wife material isn't looking for someone needy. In fact, they aren't looking at all. They are simply enjoying being single. When two adults that enjoy being single get together, they begin to share interests but they keep their individuality because it’s fully developed and didn’t get squashed trying to mold itself around someone else's wish list.
So many people have relationships which don’ have that happiness factor. They started off okay, but perhaps she pretended she liked football just to keep the guy. The problem with that is that he isn’t going to change and she has to keep up this pretense for life if they get married. He, in turn, may give her the impression he likes all her friends, when he’s just trying to impress her and thinks that they are fairly dull. In the years of courtship many people forget the need to live a satisfactory single life before getting involved with someone. Learning to live with someone seems easier than learning to live with themselves.
Positive people will always attract positive people
If you want the ideal relationship to happen, prepare yourself for it by becoming happy living on your own and let the Law of Attraction do the rest. You will meet people during the course of your life when you are not out there searching. As long as you keep up the hunt, the ideal lover, husband or potential wife will avoid you like the plague if you are too needy. If you can show independence and a character that’s happy with him/herself that's the first way that you let the Law of Attraction work. Positive people will always attract other positive people and that's wonderfully healthy and the right way to go.
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