Here’s the thing: no matter how great relationships may seem, they really won’t be able to shield you from bad news. What does this mean? Well, just news that may either be personal, or even about the world but that may have this certain negative effect on your relationship.
What are some examples of bad news? Well, it can be one of the following: the death of someone in the family, an accident, losing money, going bankrupt, losing a job, demotion, promotion etc., if the other person has low self-esteem then this would affect him or her, not being able to do what you’re supposed to do, bad weather that could cancel a date or a trip, not finding a place to eat in during his or her birthday, forgetting an anniversary, saying your ex is in town, meeting friends he or she doesn’t like, etc. There are things that could irk someone and things that could devastate a person, and being able to know how each other would like to receive bad news, if either one of you is the bearer, would help you prepare for situations like this.
Since these things are considered to be negative, you should expect that it would not be that easy to handle, especially if you are the type of person who has already experienced so many awful things in life that you rather not hear bad news. It’s harder when it’s this way because the other person would really be walking on eggshells in telling the news, but then again, the one on the losing end also could not be blamed because trying not to add negativity in his or her life is just a defense mechanism that he or she is using. If you’re this way, it is best to tell your partner about it early on or when you do actually trust the person already so that he or she could prepare for it, and try to think about the best ways of sharing the news without being insensitive, because it truly depends on the situation.
On the other hand, there are also people who just want to hear the news right away, just to get it over with. It’s like pulling off a Band-Aid: once you get past it, the acceptance, and eventually, the healing, can begin. Or maybe you’re the type who, to balance things out, would also like to hear something good before or after the bad news, especially if it is nothing too serious. Some would also like you to say that you actually have bad news to share before saying it out loud as this gives them time to prepare for the situation, especially if they’re dealing with anxiety.
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