Games for Two
At this point let's broaden out the discussion by assuming that you have a desire to hone your kissing skills along with your partner. Maybe there's an issue you want to work on or maybe there's no issue at all. It could be that you just want to make a good thing even better. Of course, one of the best ways to get really skilled at kissing is to practice often, which is good news since practicing with a partner and making out are pretty much the same thing.But another way to sharpen your skills, learn more about your partner's preferences, and have fun at the same time is by playing kissing games together.
The sort of games that be talking about here are not the party games that you might be familiar with from your adolescence. Games like "Spin the Bottle" and "Minutes in Heaven" were all about pairing up two individuals within a group and forcing them to kiss. Following the rules of those games gave the players a chance to kiss someone new, and, if things went really well, to finally kiss that one person they secretly had a crush on.
The games in this chapter have a different goal.These games are for two people who are already a couple,and they provide a way to explore new ways of kissing in a relaxed, playful atmosphere. Each game can be seen as a little experiment that encourages us to take our kissing where it has never gone before. The tendency is to loosen up and get bolder when we play, so that we're more likely to try new things.
And if something we try doesn't work, well, so what? That's the beauty of play. It’s easy to laugh off an awkward moment when it's just part of a silly game. But the things we try that do work and the positive discoveries that get made in the course of play, those we can keep after the game is over.
(One note of common-sense caution here： Before starting a kissing game, it's a good idea to set down a few ground rules. These games should not be seen by either partner as an opportunity to take necking in a direction that the other person isn't comfortable with. Though someone may take on a role or personality trait that differs from their norm, they are still responsible for their own actions, and if the other person asks them to stop a behavior during the game, that's a request that should always be respected.)
Follow the Leader
Just like the game many of us played as children, the object is to take turns leading the action while the other player irritates the behavior of the leader. In this more mature version of the game, it begins with one partner initiating a series of kisses the goal is to make them as creative and fun as possible. While this is going on the person on the receiving end doesn't remain entirely passive. After all, kisses aren't much fun unless two are playing — but they let the other person take the lead without trying to move things in a new direction. When it's time to switch roles, the second person begins their turn by copying their partner's kisses as closely as they can. Once they've duplicated all their partner's kisses, they come up with a new series of lip and tongue maneuvers that their partner will in turn have to duplicate. Things can ping-pong back and forth like this for as long as both players wish.
This is a great game for encouraging creativity and variety in kisses. The person who's the leader will soon find that they can't coast or nothing much is going to happen, and if one partner treats the other to a dazzling series of kisses the natural tendency is to want to keep up with them when the roles are reversed. Just like the traditional version of follow the Leader, it can be fun at times to inject a certain amount of good-natured competition, challenging each other to top what's already been done with more creative, passionate or romantic kisses as things move along.
Depending on how you proceed, this game can become both sexy and funny, not a bad combination. It can also be a sneaky way to get your partner to kiss you exactly how you've been wanting them to. Just plant that kiss on them first. When they return the kiss you have been waiting for, a contented sigh or some other sign of approval from you, let's your partner know that you’d like them to try that move again sometime.
Of course, that goes both ways. Playing this game can also be an opportunity to learn about your partner's preferences and how they like to be kissed.
Kissing at the Movies
The rules of this game are simple：Watch a movie together that has some romantic moments in it. Every time there's a scene that shows the main couple kissing, observe how they do it, then immediately afterward recreate those kisses with your partner.
One of the great things about this game is that you can determine the type of kisses you'll be giving each other by the movie you select. If you're in the mood for soft, romantic kisses, choose that type of movie,for kisses that are more erotically chained, select something a bit steamier.
If the movie has only one or two kissing scenes, but you're in the mood for a bit more lip-time with your partner, you can vary the game by having kissing triggers.For example, if you're watching regular broadcast TV, you could agree that every time a commercial break occurs you and your partner must kiss until the movie comes back on. If you are not watching a movie that has commercials in it, there are end-less other possible triggers you could use. Kiss every time the lead characters is mentioned, or every time a car is visible in a scene, or every time the action moves from indoors to outdoors. Whatever is likely to happen several times in the movie could make a good kissing trigger. If it is a movie you haven't seen before, part of the fun is never quite knowing when the next kiss is coming.
This is another game that you can use to get your partner to kiss you in ways they haven't before. For example, if your partner has a habit of being somewhat passive and loose-lipped when they kiss you, copying the kissing style of a movie hero or heroine could get them to shift into a more confident and assertive mode.Once they’ve had a few of those experiences, tapping into that side of their own personality may come more naturally.
This game can also create a kind of shorthand for future romantic encounters just mention to your partner that you're in the mood for a "Top Gun" moment or one of those “Gone with the Wind" kisses again, and they’ll know exactly what you mean.
Similitude
The word "similitude” is defined in the dictionary as two things that have similar qualities. That's also what this game is about. At the start of the game, a player gives their partner the name of a person, animal or inanimate object.
The partner must then kiss while taking on the personal name of whatever they were given. It sometimes requires a lot of creativity to become that person, animal or object, but when players really get into the game they can go in some very entertaining directions. Things can get hysterically funny at times, but there can also be moments that are genuinely erotic.
For example, what if your partner asks you to kiss them as if you were a cloud? In this game, objects can be a particular challenge. We have observed clouds all our lives — how on earth does someone kiss like one though? Here's where a vivid imagination comes in handy.There's no right or wrong answer for how to do it, so just play with the idea and translate your partner’s request into some sort of action. When chinking about how a cloud could kiss, for instance, you might imagine rain and wind and choose to lightly brush your moistened lips across your partner's skin before blowing warm air over this dampened flesh.
Other examples： If you were to ask your partner to "Kiss me like a snake,it could inspire some very sly and slithery tongue work on their part; Kiss me like “Jack Sparrow from the Pirate movies” , it will likely lead to a few swashbuckling, over-the-top moves; “Kiss me like a Ferrari" and your partner might like a finely-tuned engine, causing their lips to vibrate pleasantly against yours.
It’s important to remember that the point of the game isn’t to literally act as the thing named, but to take on some essence of its personality. This is especially true if the thing that is named is an animal or inanimate object. For example, if a player asks their partner to "Kiss me like a lion" they’re obviously not asking to be mauled and injured (that would be foolish); what they really want is to have their partner be more decisive or assertive, and maybe throw in a growl or two while they're at it.
There will be times when a suggestion requires a player to think very abstractly. After all, who wants to literally be kissed like a lawn mower? Pretty boring. If a lawn mower is the object suggested, however, a partner who rolls their tongue over the other person's skin as they move up and down their neck might be on to something. Again, exact mimicry isn't the goal — the real object of the game is always to attempt a creative maneuver that might feel good to your partner.
A game like Similitude provides another way to expand the emotional range of your make-out sessions. For example, if your partner tends to be low-key and undemonstrative, you could ask them to be like an excited dog that's greeting its owner, and let them cover your face with enthusiastic kisses. If your partner is somewhat aggressive and you'd like to see their gentler side, stay away from suggesting that they kiss you with the personality of a lion, tiger or bear — pick something like a kitten or lamb instead. If your partner baulks because your suggestion seems too tender and unlike their normal take-charge self, well, that's the point. Everybody has many sides to their personality, some more hidden than others. You might remind him (or her) that when it's their turn to pick something for you to act out, they can choose a creature that's feral and untamed. What goes around comes around.
By the way, you and your partner might want to set a ground rule that real people can't be used as a suggestion — only fictional characters and professions (cowboy, rock star, gymnast, etc.). Asking a partner to kiss like Jack Sparrow or a pirate is different than asking them to pretend that they're Johnny Depp. You want to bring out different sides of your partner's personality, not suggest to them that you're day-dreaming about other people while kissing.
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