Up to now this book has been largely devoted to giving the reader advice about their own kissing; but, of course, it takes two to tango and to kiss. What if you're with a partner who's wonderful in almost every way — thoughtful, kind, loving, passionate — but there's just something about the way they kiss that makes the experience memorable for the wrong reasons. Sometimes this happens because a partner has a habit of regularly taking their kisses to some extreme: too hard or too soft, too wet or too dry, too aggressive or too passive. Sometimes the reason a partner's kisses aren't working that isn't obvious — the person on the receiving end may have no idea why their sweetheart's kisses don't light them up.
If any of this describes what it is like when your partner kisses you, the first thing to remember is that being a kisser doesn't mean that your partner isn't wanting to please you or that they're not willing to try. There are plenty of wonderful people out there who adore their mates but who've simply never developed an effective kissing style. Many people lock into an approach to kissing in the early, fumbling stages of their romantic history, and never realize that a few tweaks could turn mediocre kisses into something more.
Also, keep in mind that it's entirely possible that a previous lover found your partner's kissing style absolutely to their liking.There's a lot of room for personal preference when it comes to kissing.Too soft or hard, too wide or wet may have been just right for someone else.But if something about your partner's approach to kissing doesn't work for you, a happy previous partner doesn't change that.There's a laundry lilt of things that go into being a successful couple, with good communication and interests usually come near the top, but also high on the list is the willingness of their partner to make little adjustments that in create the other partner's happiness.
Kissing Lessons
If you're in a new relationship with a partner who is inexperienced, it is possible to help them improve their kissing skills without ever bring the topic up. One simple way to do this is through praise. Even an unskilled kisser occasionally hits right spot or make the right move.When they do, let them know It by saying something like “Mmmm, that feels nice...do that again”,or by providing a nonverbal cue such as a long, satisfied sigh. Besides communicating what you enjoy, this has the added benefit of being exciting for your partner to hear. Overtime, as you continue to provide positive feedback, your partner should become increasingly adept at kissing in a way that works for both of you.
Another effective way to improve an inexperienced partners kissing technique is to kiss them in the way that you like to be kissed. Without letting them know that you're doing it,you can give him or her a lesson in the art of kissing by way of some skillful kisses of your own. Hopefully, they pick up on what you're doing and add it to their own skill set. Again, in those moments when their kisses come alive, let them know how much you enjoy what they're doing at that moment by verbally or non-verbally expressing your pleasure.
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