For men, whether or not to grove/ facial hair is not unlike the grooming choice faced by women. When it comes to wearing a beard (especially the trendy stubbled look) is often used by guys to emphasize their maleness and catch interest of the opposite sex, just as lipstick draws attention to a woman's fuller, feminine lips.But, as with lipstick, facial hair can sometimes spoil a good kiss. Though some women (about 1/3 in one survey) find kissing a man with stubble sexy, most women do not. In fact, another survey found that twice as many women would rather kiss a clean-shaven man. The biggest reason? Comfort. Kissing a guy with stubble on his cheeks and chin can be like brushing up against sandpaper. Those pokey little hairs can create microscopic cuts in his partner's skin. Stubble burn, as it's commonly called, leaves the skin painfully tender and looking sunburned.
So what should you do if you're a man who is fond of his facial hair? As mentioned in the advice about lipstick, you could stay stubbled during the nice-to-meet-you phase and do a quick shave when it's time to kiss — but that's not always going to be practical or convenient.Your safest bet when dating someone new is to go without whiskers, especially if were talking about a few days' growth that can be quickly replaced later on. Even if you were to ask a new partner if she has a preference, early in the relationship she may shy away from honestly telling you that your kisses are a prickly, uncomfortable experience.
If you're reluctant to shave off your stubble, the next best option is usually to let your beard grow out some more. For men with a full beard the news is somewhat better, although it's possible to give someone a beard burn, longer hair bends so it's generally far less scratchy to get close to. (By the way, mustache wearers can usually breathe easy about their hirsute choice — though fur above the lip may occasionally tickle it isn't generally painful for a partner to get close to.)
If you have got a beard that you want to keep, you can reduce the possibility of making your partner squirm with discomfort by following a few basic grooming tips that will leave your facial hair softer and, therefore, less abrasive. Many men don't realize that the combination of hard water and regular bar soap can leave a residue that builds up in layers on their beard, making the hairs wiry and stiff. To remove this residue, when you wash the hair on the top of your head also wash your beard, using shampoo. Afterwards, soften your beard by using the same hair conditioner that you use on your scalp. While this simple procedure may be enough to allow your partner to kiss you without any discomfort, she can further reduce the possibility of getting a beard bum by keeping her skin well moisturized, as dry skin is more likely to become irritated.
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