In our daily life, we may always meet people who like minding others’ business. There are parents who like minding childrens’ business. There are neighbors who like minding your business. There are friends who like minding your business and ask you about many questions or personal information of your business. Sometimes people may mistakingly consider who like minding others’ business as kind-hearted. Actually it’s not a way of love or kindness. Think about it! Everyone has to acting different kinds of roles in their life. I have to act as a good daughter, a wife, an aunt, an employee and a good colleague everyday, therefore I have a lot of things to deal with everyday. How can I have time to mind business of others?
I think taking others’ pain away and minding others’ business might not actually be my job. If I was spending too much of my time minding others’ business, who was minding mine? No one would, not even parents when they’re getting older and you’ve grown up as adults and even have family of your own. Our job is not to mind others’ business but to show respect and love to them and also validate their cholices and their feelings. What’s more important is that we should at first validate our own choices and feelings and respect ourselves. Once you begin to pay attention to yourself, you’ll gradually be more of yourself.
Life is too short to be anybody else. Everytime we’re far away from ourselves, we need to adjust and adapt ourselves to focus on our inner self. My mother is a person who had lived her life in service of everybody else except herself and neglecting herself but she didn’t realize this. She had to help raise her brothers before her marriage to my father. Upon marriage, she always ristricted most of her own feelings by considering too much of my father and her three children, including me. When I just believe that she may be able to take a breathe to do something of her own when my two brothers have already got married. However, she still kept sacrificing herself to help my two elder brothers taking care of their children, while their wives still don’t take too much responsibilities. Most traditional chinese women are of those kinds and they seldom consider about themselves.
When you’re taking too much time minding others’ business, probably you may be wasting your time because it’s always of no use for you to mind others’ business as others may have different values and attitudes towards life as you do. Moreover, their feelings may also be quite different from you. Some people who like freedom may even consider your minding of their businesses may seem to be a behavior of controlling others or you have some bad intentions.
The best way to live your life better is to take care of yourself and mind your own businessses well because life is always too short to be anybody else.
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