When you say "Do you really love me?", what you're doing is questioning the authenticity of your partner's love or motive for being with you. Wouldn't you rather just be loved and grateful that your partner loves who you are? Isn't that romantic? Wouldn't you agree to just leave it that way? Anyone sitting beside you would. There will always be those intangibles in you that your partner will always relate to and this transcends your looks, wealth, youth and other factors. Actually, some of the well-loved individuals in history fell way below the list when it comes to looks, wealth or prestige. This should be reasonable enough to stop worrying why someone could possibly love you.
Instead of questioning the authenticity of your partner's love, you need to accept that you're loved, feel happy and cherished, stop looking for reassurance. Look inside yourself, you need to find out why you're so insecure. Your insecurity comes from within you, rather than anything your partner has done. You yourself should be responsible for your insecurities. There maybe all kinds of reasons in detail for your insecurity but you are the only one who can deal with these and your partner shouldn't have to deal with your issues of jealousy. Keep in mind that your partner shouldn't have to deal with your issues of jealousy. If you are a little insecure when it comes to making decisions, you need to talk to a consultant who may help you or you could attend some self-assertiveness lessons. You need to develop your own sense of well-being so that you're worthy of all that love your partner is prepared to shower you with.
Insecurities usually have a reason when they usually make logical sense. However, since you're in a relationship and when that happens to you, you shall be responsible to your partner as well as to yourself that you should be secure about who you are. Because the person you love doesn't have the obligation to reassure you and to make up for your deficiencies.
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