Your partner might frustrate and even annoy you at times, but they have redeemable qualities. There are things about them that make your relationship worth fighting for. You need to think about the qualities he or she has that make you happy to be around them and make you love them. This is not something that can necessarily be achieved in a few minutes. You need to think about and write down all the qualities you like about your spouse or partner.
Write down all the qualities you like about your partner
Do you like him/her because of their appearance, are they caring, honest and loyal? Do you like your partner because he/she is hardworking, intelligent, or funny? Do you like your partner because they pay attention to what you need and want in life? Write down all of the qualities you like. Take time to remember every single quality. Make sure you do not miss anything.
Once you have made your list go back and look at the qualities that you listed. Now that you have identified what you like about your partner, you need to support your choice. Give specific examples as to why these qualities make you love your spouse or partner. Did you write down that you think they are loving and that every day when you get home from work they hug you and ask you about your day? Did you say that your partner or spouse was cheerful because no matter how bad a day either you are having they always make sure to find a positive spin on it? Do you like your spouse because they have stunning blue eyes that make you a bit envious because yours are a common brown? Not only is it important for you admit why you like certain aspects of your significant other; but you must also know why you feel that way as well. This will make it easier for you to remember why you are in a relationship with your partner, especially when times get tough.
Read the list
Once you have listed all of the qualities of your partner that you really like, take the time to read the list. Read this as often as you can. Whenever you feel bored or frustrated, take out the list and read it. If you and your significant other have an argument, it is also a good opportunity to look at this list as well. This will help you remember why you are in the relationship in the first place. This will also reignite the feelings and passion that you have for your partner. You will instantly realize why you fell in love with this person. This will help you fall in love with your partner once again.
The list should be a constant reminder that your spouse or partner is worth fighting for. The list you made is not empty the person you fell in love with is still important to you. Not only should this list make you fall in love with your partner, but it should also be a testament as to why you chose to start your relationship. If there were nothing positive about them, you would riot
pursued the relationship in the first place.
The list doesn't have to be completed in one sitting either. You can write down more qualities as you remember them. Better yet, you can write down new reasons why you are attracted to your spouse or partner as you discover them. If you are paying attention to your partner, you may discover new things about them that you didn’t realize before.
Share the list with your partner or spouse
When you are comfortable with what you have written about your partner or spouse, it's important to let them know how you feel. Maybe they have noticed that the relationship has fizzled out and are concerned. Sharing your list with your partner is a great way to affirm how you are feeling and put your significant other at ease.
Tell him or her how much you appreciate their good qualities. Tell them how handsome or pretty you think he/she is or how much you appreciate all of the hard work that he/she has done for your family. You could tell them about the positive qualities that they have, that you wished you yourself had. It could be physical attributes that you wish you possessed, or you could also tell them that you wish you had a strong sense of family or were as comforting as they were. Make sure that you give the reasoning behind your list of positive qualities. This will show your partner or spouse why you fell in love with them and why you still continue to love them despite the difficult times.
Sharing your list with you partner or spouse can be positive in the sense of letting them know that you truly remember why you fell in love with them. It could encourage them to open up to you and make a list of their own. They could rediscover all of the reasons why they fell in love with you, and it could rekindle what is still between the two of you. it will also give yousignificant other the opportunity to think about your positive traits when they find themselves frustrated or annoyed. Finally, sharing your feelings for one another can fully get you talking about other aspects of your relationship and having open lines of communication often. It's easier to be open about your feeling you both feel that you can do it comfortably.
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