There are some certain misconceptions about sex. We can take one example where men often feel that sexual prowess is the one of the only positive feedbacks that can make their partners endear them. Women often feel that sexual prowess is a sign that you are slutty. These are some misconceptions that society has placed on us that end up affecting how frequent partners have sex and they often undermine the importance of sex. Sometimes, women often feel that they are being pressured to give in to more sexual demands than they are comfortable with while men’s ego is heavily bruised if every so often their sexual demands are turned down. These conflicting situations often lead to a lot of hurt feelings piling up in the hearts of each of the partners. The all important question then comes up regarding the importance of sex in marriage.
Couples often contemplate making rush decisions because they unable to understand their partners sexual desires and needs. This seems like the hardest part of marriage; understanding what makes your partner tick. You might feel that way even though you feel like you know everything else about your partner. You will be amazed at how many couples experience sexual dysfunction. The result is that most couples have some form counseling hovering around their marriage life.
Women often see sex as a form of power over men. They often withhold sex when things are a mess in the marriage to punish the men. Men often have the perception that there should be a certain frequency of sex to term things as ‘going good'. Feelings of inadequacy often hit their egos if sex is withheld and this may provoke feelings of insecurity vvith fears of cheating.
So, really is there a middle ground for all this? The answer is yes. The middle ground for these common predicaments that haunt marriages is communication. Married couples can only work through these sexual frustrations if they can communicate. Couples should learn how to communicate to their partners about what they feel works for them and what they find intolerable.
Women need physical affection more than men. However, this may not necessarily translate to wanting more sex. It may be true that men also want physical contact but they have been taught not to always ‘complain’ whenever they are in crisis. These misconstrued notions result to marriages where in case wives want physical contact but not necessarily sex, men get confused feeling as if they are just getting mixed signals. These destructive feelings can simply be sorted by engaging each other in simple rational discussions.
Communication is about listening to your partners views no matter what they are. Listening is not just sitting and giving your partner a chance to speak. It is about to the very least attempting to put one's self in the other's shoes and internalizing what they have said and trying to get a solution to the situation. Each partner should feel empathetic to their partners concerns and this will bring some understanding to their sexual lives. It will greatly bring an aura of satisfaction to both partners and consequently, an improvement in their sexual lives will follow without them even realizing it.
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