Whether it be polygamy (all parties consenting to the involvement with more than one person) or affairs, the boundaries of love and intimate relationships are no longer restricted to conventional ideologies of committed adult bonds. With these changes in societal acceptance of unconventional intimate interrelations, we also begin to develop new understandings of dynamics quite different to the ones which dominate in conventional relationships.
Women who are involved in an affair with a married man often have to walk a balanced tightrope between satisfying their own needs as well as those of the man with whom they're involved. For most women, these affairs usually turn out to be nerve-wracking experiences meandering among emotions such as excitement, thrill, and the fears of rejection and abandonment. This is primarily because these women often don't understand what her partner truly wants from her, emotionally, physically, or even psychologically.
Being in an affair is never a pretty situation to be in, and regardless of what you may say to yourself, it's always an active choice on your part. If you're going down this path to get together with a man who might one day build a happy and loving family together with you, break up and go find someone single. This man will never be trust-worthy again, regardless of how many times you wish this weren't true.
The biggest problem in such an arrangement is that one person often holds more psychological power than the other, and it's usually the married one. This particular imbalance doesn't typically exist to such a tangible degree in conventional relationships where both parties involved have equal amounts to lose or gain. It is this imbalance which often leaves one or both parties confused about their roles and the dynamics in the affair.
However, if you're still planning to go through with it, then have fun, provide the best and most daring version of yourself which could become your man's fantasy woman, practice safe sex, don't take the relationship too seriously, never share information about this with your friends or family, but always maintain a healthy ongoing relationship with them. Do not isolate yourself at his whim; if and when you feel it, don't remain sexually exclusive to your married man regardless of whether you let him take charge in bed or not; while you may push the boundaries of your experimentation in an attempt to give him everything he pleases, never allow him to take you for granted.
As long as you don't forget these basic points, and don't become confrontational or nag as his spouse does, you'll walk the perfect tightrope between keeping him pleased while protecting yourself and your self-esteem. Never lose sight of your motives behind staying in a relationship with a married man, and if that ever starts turning into serious feelings and emotions, end your relationship.
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