Lack of Change: No one likes to have the same food or wear the same dress for years and years; this is too boring and tiring. As humans, we love variety.
When you refuse to grow and change, your partner would certainly get tired of you and there would be a loss of spark in your relationship. You have to continue to look for ways to spice things up. You can't change who you are but you can make continuous improvements that would bring an air of freshness into your relationship. Develop yourself, learn new things about yourselves, and get to know your partner on a different level every day.
There are a million and one ways why couples grow apart and lose the connection in their marriage but these are the most common ones. The good thing is that no matter how bad things may seem to have gotten, you can still rebuild the connection and spark in your marriage and become as crazy as you were for each other in the beginning.
To rebuild the connection in your marriage, here are some steps to take:
Relax: The natural human response to un-favorable situations is to either “fight or flee. This is why the first step to take to rebuild emotional connection in your marriage is to take a deep breath and relax. Lack of communication in your marriage. Figure out what it is and only then can you start to rebuild and repair the relationship.
Talk to Your Partner about It: It takes two to tango. If your partner is not in this with you, it would hardly work. You have to bring your partner in on this and make them see the problem. Talk to each about the problem and make joint, conscious decisions to fix it.
Take it Slow: You cannot fix your marriage in one day. Just as you didn't fall in love with your partner in one day, you can't expect to rebuild your emotional connection in one day. You have to take things slow and steady because attempts to force things to happen in one day would only jeopardize our efforts. It’s also important to exercise patience, as a same change is better than no change at all.
Let’s go of the negative behaviors. It's not a common for couples to develop some negative behaviors to help them cope with the emotional disconnection in their marriages. One partner might code to start cheating on the other in or to cope with sexual disconnection in a relationship. Some other partners it takes to lying, keeping, distance with they’re partners.
Some negative behaviors: subtle and not as extreme. They still do damage the relax Therefore; you have to let these go and replace them with positive behaviors. If you've been lying, become honest. If you've been cheating, stop it and start being faithful to your spouse.
Focus on the Positive Qualities: What are those things that you fell in love with when you first met? Make a list of those positive qualities you admired in your partner and start focusing on them rather than on the negative qualities because it is very easy to focus so much on the negative and forget about all the good things about your partner.
Introduce Mew Things: Get out of the normal routine and introduce some fun in your relationship. Try something fun and exciting, something that would blow your minds away.
Start Touching Each Other: Don't wait until it’s time for sex to start touching each other physically. Touch boasts the body’s feel-good hormones and promotes affection between people so kiss, touch and hold your partner from time to time and don't just wait to do it in the bedroom.
Give Appreciation： Nothing fosters deep connection more than deep appreciation. Take note of the things your partner does and appreciate them directly for it. Speak out your appreciation and let them know that you appreciate them.
Go on Dates: Give yourselves something to look forward to by planning and going on Talk： It's time to stop the guesswork and attempts to read your partner's mind. It's time to start being open and honest and asking your partner questions to know what he or she expects from you and you should also do the same. Conversations don’t have to be serious and you don't have to nag. Simple, light-hearted conversation from time to time would help you come (encourage honesty, and bring deeper co nation between you two.
Focus on Yourself. Your relationship in your partner cannot thrive if you don't love yourself. You have to take care of your own individual needs and do the things that you are passionate about and only then would you become interesting to your partner. When you are too predictable and boring, it affects your relationship because there are no surprises, thrills or anything to look forward to. Love yourself, enjoy your life, share it with your partner and watch your relationship thrive.
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