How most women don’t necessarily feel “in the mood” before they start making love is more a by-product of making love. But what if you're a woman and you never actually get aroused? That's a problem. And it's likely because you're not doing enough of the things that arouse you. Here in this passage, foreplay is discussed. What it is? How to make it great? How to figure out what you like. Before we do that, let's go over some misconceptions about foreplay.
1. Foreplay can get too clinical
If there's too much "spend two minutes touching her breasts and then four minutes between her legs” while she lies there, its hardly going to be fun. It can seem like it's rote-like he’s doing it just to get going, sort of like you prime an engine before it actually turns on. And if he aims for an especially sensitive area before you've spent any time kissing or holding each other, it can seem very intrusive to her.
For foreplay to be pleasurable, it needs to be part of the whole experience-not just something you have to do and want to get over with so that you can get to the main event.
Touching and exploring each others’ bodies should be fun. Foreplay, then, doesn't always have to involve the same actions for the same amount of time. And if you spend a lot of time in foreplay, it can seem much more intimate, and it can make actual intercourse that much more intense.
2.Foreplay can be too much of a one-way street
If foreplay consists entirely of him touching her (because he's already in the mood, and she's not), then it can make a lot of women feel somehow inferior What’s wrong writh me that I’m not ready?
Instead, make it about both of you. Women, touch him, too, so that its about feeling each other and experiencing each other, not just him making her try to catch up to where he's already at.
3.Foreplay can become routine
While there are certain things that feel good to women, if you do too much of the same thing it can get boring. What really arouses a person is a whole combination of things-feeling loved, feeling a little bit teased, having all the nerves firing. One can do that in different ways. One of the sexiest things sometimes is to have him touch everything, very slowly, EXCEPT her real erogenous zones. That makes those zones ever so much more sensitive. So you don’r always have to do the same thing every night. And you don't always have to use just fingers, either. Kiss each other. Feel with the whole hand. Rub your hair over him. Be creative. The more you get involved, the more exciting and fun it will be.
4.Foreplay can be too rough
Men like to be touched intimately much more firmly than women do. Men like to be squeezed, but if a guy touches a woman's erogenous zones the way he likes to be touched, it's going to hurt-or at least be very uncomfortable. Many women, when they're new to sex, experience this and think, “I guess I don’t like my breasts touched”, or “I guess I don’t like foreplay. That’s not true. Perhaps he just never touched them the way she needs to be touched!
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