Sex is also an issue that you have to be clear about early on. You see, it’s not the same for everyone. For some people, especially those who have lost their virginity early, it’s not really a big deal. For others who believe in chastity, it should only be done with the person they’re supposed to marry. Both are okay.
The thing is, as you and your partner have different backgrounds, your views about sex may not be the same, too. It may be a necessity for you and not for the other person, and vice versa. There are also some people who consider themselves to be asexual or those who have no inclination to have sex and there are people who have the sexual energy of rabbits.
Is Sex Needed in a Relationship?
It actually really depends on who you’d ask, but intimacy, be it sex or not, is definitely important in any relationship, and for one's health, too, as when bodies get dose, even in the form of kissing or hugging, the body releases oxytocin, a hormone that makes you happier, and even closer to each other.
Sex could be fun, and engaging, especially if both of you are into it, but if the other person does not feel comfortable yet, then it is also not right to just make him or her feel guilty about it, especially if they have told you about their concerns in the beginning or any time in the relationship. If both of you are into it, then you can even have fun with experimenting, trying various positions, using toys, etc. But, if only one is into it, then the other party has no right to force sex as this would not be healthy, and would actually be unlawful. Just because you are already in a relationship does not mean that sex is already a right.
Intimacy could also be done by kissing, hugging, making out or even playing with and exploring each other's bodies without the act of penetration itself, especially if the other party is not comfortable yet.
Do and Do not
It is also important that you get to be clear about what you want and don’t want when it comes to intimate moments with your partner, as you really wouldn't want to ruin a moment simply because you have done something that your partner does not feel comfortable with, or that is hurtful, in one way or the other.
It is kind of restricting, you may think, but then again, you have to realize that people have different sets of values and experiences in life, and these do shape the way a person deals with sex.
If you do love the other person, then you’ve got to respect the way he or she also deals with sex as it’s really not just you in this relationship. Sex is also quite a sensitive issue, so it's not like people can just talk about it just like that, so the fact that your partner has opened up to you would help you realize that they actually trust you, and that is a sign that you've got to respect their choices, too.
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