As open as discussions have become about sex, so have the many misconceptions about sex that have arisen. Everyone wants to give their opinions about sex and many of them are laden with some degree of inaccuracies. It is therefore important to decipher the truth from the half truths before we embark any further. We shall see some of the myths about sex that modem society blows out of proportion.
Sexual problems; not in a healthy marriage!
At some point, couples experience sexual problems. This should not a cause of alarm and does not depict your marriage as one beaded for the rocks or rather one that is not good. Existence of sexual problems is not in any way an issue. It only jeopardizes the marriage if these concerns are not raised or addressed. Time is a factor that changes a lot of things meaning that as time goes by partners' sexual needs may change. There are external factors that may cause some changes like stress and pressures in the work place or the home environment. These inevitable factors may cause the levels in sexual desire or satisfaction to change. So never assume that healthy marriages don't have their flaws.
I have a problem if my wife doesn't climax by penetration alone
Women have complex sensory networks in their bodies. It does not matter how the physical attributes of the penis are. This is because the penis sometimes doesn’t cause sufficient stimulation of tbe clitoris. Many married couples undergo unwarranted stress thinkingg maybe eithrt one of them could be doing things wrong. There are m factors that lead up to the woman reaching climax, some of which will be discussed in this book.
Even as the marriage ages, passion shouldn't die
When a married couple is young, the levels of passion are so high. Part of the reason for this is because they are still learning more about other. As time goes passion fades and there is a feeling that something went wrong with somewhere. Truly, couples should not expect something to remain the same for the rest of their lives. Most of us are aware of this fact but we choose to look for blame wherever we find it. We look for it in ourselves, in our partners, in how we relate with them and so on. It takes work to keep passion alive. Relationship in marriage goes through cycles therefore couples should have in mind that they must nurture the relationship. There has to be growth. It is like taking care of a beautiful rose flower. You cannot fail to water the rose of garden and get mad that the roses seem to be dying. A lot of effort has to be placed to build the passion. Much on this will be discussed later in the book.
My partner should know me by now
Unfortunately, no human being on earth is capable of deciphering the other's thoughts. Feelings maybe; to some extent, but still, your most intimate thoughts can only be understood by your partner by sharing. A broken line of communication is one of the biggest contributors to episodes of sexual dissatisfaction. It's true that everyone knows the basics if they are in marriage but there are those unique needs that you would wish were met or the very least understood. It is imperative for couples to teach each other their preferences. Communication is the best savior of any marriage. You might see the importance of communication in all other circles of life; careers, networking events like dinners, church, school and many more. Sex life in marriage hangs in the balance if partners cannot communicate.
With a small size I will never enjoy sex
Social media and the media in general, have some part to blame for this misunderstood notion. They have propagated this myth to give it life in the minds of women and men alike, while truthfully this myth is as dead as it can be. It's an individual who chooses to believe it and allows it to affect their confidence or their satisfaction.
Scientifically speaking, the first third of a woman's vagina is where most of the sensitive nerves are located. The deeper two thirds, has minimal sense of feeling. This means that a man does not have to have a big penis to satisfy a woman. What that matters to a woman most of the times, is the way she is treated by the man. We shall look into this in later chapters to dissect this quagmire.
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