To start discussion on more details of man mode, let's have a look at an example of mine. My girlfriend confronts me sometimes and she gets away with it. Why? Because I get out of line on occasion. All men do. Men like to test people. This is their competitive nature. Other times they are just stupid and overlook you. I used to get out of the car and walk ten steps ahead of her. (This is one of my bad quirks.) She didn't put up with it and she didn't get upset. Instead, she cupped her hands together and yelled, "Hey boyfriend, do you want to walk with me or should I find a guy who will?" Perfect! She just treated me like a guy, and I listened. She smiled through the whole thing and I was never scolded. There was no residual anger or anything... just like a guy... easy and magical. Guess what? It didn’t happen again because it was communicated in way I understood and will remember. This is Man Mode. She called me on it and I got back in line. She doesn’t wear the boots, but she can when she needs to and that’s the difference.
Analyzing from the example as above, it is more reasonable for women to confront your man at times with point-blank accuracy on what he is doing wrong instead of anger. You should tell him exactly what you feel without getting all lovey, hacked off or emotional. Don't change who you are. Confront with him and act like a guy when in doubt, just like his friends. Guys confront one another. This is how they communicate and build respect with each other and you need to do the same sometimes. Based on the example and the advice given as above. More man mode points below need to know:
Arguing
When you start to argue, you are going to say less and withdraw just like he does, but you are going to do it first. Leave the house and go meet your friends, but don't show anger.
Texting
Text like you tweet. One short sentence — short and to the point. No emotion and always let him text last. Just like a man.
Sex
If you are having sex, try to reverse roles here too. Be aggressive. Don't communicate afterwards and either go home or go to sleep. If you are always pushing for an orgasm, forget about it. Get him off and leave it at that. Remember,do these things occasionally, particularly when he goes rogue.
Don't complain and whine.
Men don’t react to this behavior in any positive way. They stop communicating and withdraw. Not to suppress your emotions, you need to take them to your girlfriends rather than complaining or whining. Think like a man. Guys don't complain and whine, they confront or withdraw. You need to do the same once in a while.
Tell him like it is.
Communicate with him like a guy in a direct way. Women like talking behind one another's backs and nothing gets solved at all. However, men don't sugarcoat anything, contempt can never build and the problems is fixed. If you are willing to change right in front of him, just act like a guy. He will smile and laugh, and he will be perplexed. Making him perplexed is good. This shows acceptance and will get him to drop his defenses just like he does with his guy friends. Do this enough and he starts to associate you as a non-threatening friend as well as his lover.
The beauty is, the more emotional you have been in the past, the better man mode works. You must cut out the emotion! Gradually you'll find he will start to take more interest in you. You have become interesting and mysterious to him again. You're communicating to him in a way he understands now. No longer shall he get scolded for his actions. Instead, you confront him directly and walk out the door. He is left standing alone wanting to communicate. Wow, women, you're so cool!
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