Are you in a relationship? If you are in, what kind of relationship is it and what's your mutual responsibilities in it? Are you the boss or your partner is? As women, it's very important to confirm your partner's roles, responsibilities and values, to manage well your relationship.
The biggest problem existing between men and women is: men don't love like women do. Women expect a man to love back in the same way. Women want to see emotions spilled out after work and flowers once a week to confirm their love. Women want communication after making love. They expect men to love babies, to cry, to cook, to clean and show his vulnerable side. All these may hardly happen all the time. Men love in a different way. This doesn't mean they can't love in some of the ways as women do. But actually, men love in a consistent but very different way.
Men are naturally taught to hide their emotions. They hardly cry and it's not natural for men to express emotions every hour. Therefore, you will not be likely to hear "I love you" very often. Men don't want to change diapers not because men are lazy but because they're taught this is not a man's job. Instead, men want to fix the lawnmower, shovel the snow and carry in the groceries. Most men don't even know why they like these chores because they don't understand themselves or the conveyer belt to manhood. They just know they need to do these chores to please and provide for their wife and children. It makes them feel good. All those they like doing shows the speaking of their male DNA.
If men feel good about themselves, they can love.
Remember! just because men love in different ways doesn't mean they can't change diapers, wash clothes or cook meals.Indeed, men can do those things and if a guy is a complete man, he will want to do all of these things. However, if any women force their guy to do these things and take away he needs to do, then they don't understand the male mind. If you constantly make the plans for evening, tell him what he is doing wrong in the bedroom, dress him and expect him to change the diapers, you are making him impotent and slowly destroy his self-worth.
Destroying a man's self-worth, you're destroying the relationship.
You must let men be men even if you're the boss in the relationship! Let him take out the garbase and make the plans sometimes. Let him wear the shirt you hate, humor him, tell him he is a great lover and steer him to being a great lover.
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