The reason is that even on a date where things seem to be going well, if it is still possible to get the head dodge when you go in for a kiss. It's especially easy to misread the signals from a partner who you don't know well.
In the previous chapter, I went through many of the reasons partner may not feel ready to kiss even when they have a romantic interest in you. You may be thinking. "That's fine.”
I really like this girl and am more than willing to wait until she is ready, but at the moment I am leaning halfway in and she just turned her head to the side,how do I get through the next couple minutes without things becoming really awkward?
First off, instead of focusing on your fear of embarrassment, focus instead on the opportunity you've just been given. Most girls like a guy who can handle a difficult situation. Since this is not a moment that everyone deals with well,this is a chance for you to set yourself apart from other guys she may have gone out with. Show her that you can get a turn down without it rattling your sense of conscience.The advice to you is “to be yourself" On a date,it is generally worth following, but this is one instance where a little acting is justified. Stay friendly and confident on the outside, even if on the inside your confidence feels shaken. The fact is everyone gets rejected at one time or another, and you'll discover it's really no big deal—but until you actually feel that it's no big deal, pretending that's how you feel is a valid strategy. You'll discover that fake it till you make it is a way of actually growing into greater confidence and soon you won't need to pretend.
To deflect any awkwardness, you can use light humor ("HAs pretty as you look tonight I wouldn't be much of a guy if I didn't at least try to give you a kiss.")or you can say something gentlemanly ("Sorry if that was too soon. Maybe another night when we’re both ready.’)or you can let the moment pass without verbally acknowledging the rejection. If she turns her cheek toward you simply place a little peck there as if it was what you had intended to do all along, maybe add a friendly hug, and let her know that you enjoyed spending time with her.
The worst thing you can not do when a partner rejects your attempt to kiss her is to overreact by getting angry or upset. She may already feel embarrassed or uncomfortable because she turned down your kiss If you get irritable,it makes the situation worse not better and it makes you more weak. It could also cause someone who's interested in you to change her mind,she may decide that your ego is too frag and too easily bruised to make good boyfriend material.So set her mind at ease by taking her decision in stride — if she's interested in you that will make you even more attractive to her.
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