What feels right to you? When looking for lasting love, forget what looks right, forget what you think should be right, and forget what your friends, parents, or other people think is right, and ask yourself：Does the relationship feel right to me?
The first step to firming a suitable partner is to distinguish between what you want and what you need in a partner. Wants are negotiable, needs are not. Wants include the things you think you'd like in a partner, including occupation, intellect, and physical attributes such as height,
weight, and hair color. Even if certain traits may appear to be crucially important to you at first, over time you’ll often find that you’ve been needlessly limiting your choices. For example, it may be more important, or at least as important, to find someone who is：
•Curious rather than extremely intelligent. Curious people tend to grow smarter over time, while those who are bright may languish intellectually if they lack curiosity.
•Sensual rather than sexy.
•Caring rather than beautiful or handsome.
•A little mysterious rather than glamorous.
•Humorous rather than wealthy.
•From a family with similar values to yours, rather than someone from a specific ethnic or social background.
Needs are different than wants in that needs are those things that matter to you most, such as values, ambitions, or goals in life. These are probably not the things you can find out about a person by eyeing them on the street, reading their profile on a dating site, or sharing a quick cocktail at a bar before last call.
What is a healthy relationship?
A healthy relationship is when two people develop a connection based on:
•Mutual respect
•Trust
•Honesty
•Support
•Faimess / equality
•Separate identities
•Good communication
•A sense of playfulness / fondness
According to the content as above, it may be reasonable to list out your own wants and needs first before you set out your expectation on the right parter you want to seek for.
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