Have you ever considered how jealousy relates with your possessions? Are you jealous of other's possessions? Imagine yourself in the following situation. You are to feel jealous of your neighbor. He has a swimming pool and you don't. What you are doing is not making your neighbor feel bad because he has something. You are actually making yourself feel bad because you don't have that thing. It's an absolutely pointless exercise because it makes you want things that you don't have and that adds up to unhappiness. If you were to realistically look at your neighbor, he has no partner. He has no pets. He doesn't have as many friends as you do and you lives alone.
We should be clear that everything we own will be different from what other people own but what happens is that television adverts suggest that we are lacking if we do not own certain possessions. It's absolute nonsense.
We don't need any factors from outside to provide us with sense of happiness. We don't need to have the best sports car available to find happiness. Happiness is actually what's inside us regardless of what we own. If you didn't realize this point, then you need to work on the happiness factor.
Happiness and what we own are two fields apart. You can try to look at things in a different way. For example, as for the neighbor in the assumed situation as above, your neighbor has a swimming pool while you don't. However, You should also be aware that he has no partner, no pets and not so many friends as you do. Instead of fealing jeelous because someone has something you would like, use that person as yoru inspiration to work toward getting the thing that is so important to you.
Admire them for their ability to get whatever it is, and start putting a positive spin on it. You don't have a cat because your partner has a cat allergy. It makes you a little sad because you dearly love cats and grew up with them. But you're not going to make your partner suffer illness because of something that you want. Accept that we all have different things and be happy for those who have more than you. If you value owning more very much, then go to figure out a way through which you can have just as much within your life. Jealousy won't help you get your possessions. All it will give you is unhappiness and a feeling of being unfulfilled.
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