When you are jealous, you have little confidence in your ability to keep your partner. Every time you display jealousy, you are actually making yourself even more vulnerable to hurt because the side of your character that you're showing to your partner actually proves that you're not as good as others. Instead, you're displaying the dark side of your character.
Wrong way to measure yourself
You need to stop trying to measure yourself according to standards or opinions of others as it's just a pointless exercise. You're a unique human being and you should be measuring for your own uniqueness rather than your partner's response or any others. However,actually our society usually encourages us to measure ourselves against the models we see in the magazines and heros we hear from the news, against the prettier girls or the more handsome men. We often forget that we're unique and lose confidence. Self-esteem issues are made even worse by jealousy because your lover or partner's response to jealousy will be defensive. You need to measure your own value as per the uniqueness of yourself rather to display maximum potential of yourself, than expectations from outside which may easily cause jealousy.If you value yourself in a jealous way, you'll become less valuable, less attractive and more of a burden to your partner.
Bad relationship examples due to jealousy
In a relationship when there are abusive partners, they often tend to insult the person they're supposed to love. A man in an abusive relationship is every bit as vulnerable as a woman is.Some women are known to be violent and abusive because he loves her and he will put up with all of this bad behavior toward him until he can no longer take it. Jealousy will eventually kill off any emotion that may have been genuinely felt for the partner because it erodes relationships and leaves them barren.
Right way to measure your own value
If you want your partner to value you, value yourself first. Learning a little self-love will go a very long process. Anytime when you're saying to your partner, "I don't trust you", actually you're saying "I don't have any confidence in myself and fear you'll leave me." That's quite a different message and it's no wonder that people who demonstrate jealousy are often those who come off the worst in relationships because jealousy really makes them very negative people to be with.
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