Kids are achivements of an intimate relationship and they are a part of your marriage. As kids could be a happy catalyst or a trouble for a marriage, how we should get long with them meanwhile when we try our best to create a happy marriage? This passage provides several tips for getting along with kids in marriage.
Tip 1: Play with Your Kids Together
If you play with your children and with your spouse at the same time, this can be a wonderful time for all of you to ex-perience more family unity in a world that shows increasing divorce rates and families which are torn apart.
Tip 2: Share Food
If you come from a family in which kids were trying to compete with each other and get the most ice cream, the biggest steaic, or the longest chocolate bar, then counter this culture and share your food freely. This will also help you feel better about each other as a couple.
Tip 3: Be a Parenting Team
Kids know exactly how to get their way by playing parents against each other. When the mother says “no” and the fa ther says 'yes’ you two just lost the battle. Make sure you’re on the same page. If you aren’t certain about whether or not your partner has the same opinion, just tell your kids to "go ask your mom/dad.”
Tip 4： Have Bedtimes for the Kids
I know a family that doesn’t have bedtimes, even for the youngest children. Why is this such a bad idea? Well, there are multiple reasons, which you can read in this book: The Children's Sleep Remedy. But one of the main reasons is that you needs some time alone, without the kids. There is nothing wrong with that. I know you probably love your children, but that doesn’t mean you don't need a break every once in a while. Give yourself a break and send the kids to bed, so you can have an hour or two for yourselves.
Tip 5: Enjoy Your Children's Childhood
A lot of parents are busy, and it can be tempting to brush your kids aside because you don't have time for them. Sometimes that may be necessary, because of chores, obligations or simply work or job. But try not to miss the beautiful moments. Time flies by. A child is only 5 for one year, only 6 for one year, etc. And in those young years, there are tons of developments that take place.
Tip 6: Marriage First, Children Second, Work Third
Yes, in that carder. For religious people, you should put God in there toor but for non-religious people, let's make sure your relationship comes first, then the kids, and only then your job. That doesn't mean you can't work overtime or that you don't have to temporarily put your job first at times; but it counts for a general sense of priorities.
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