When couples discuss their sexual boundaries, they often enter a landmine. If you forget that sex is supposed to be an intimate thing, and not only an orgasmic thing (and, in fact, it’s actually more orgasmic because it's intimate), then we can go astray and actually cheapen sex. So I'd like to put these few challenges within the spiritual intimacy section to remind us that when we do try new positions, it should be to increase the fun quotient and to feel closer, not to humiliate anyone or to act selflsh.
It is widely acknowledged any way that two married adults choose to engage in intercourse is perfectly fine. You’re just joining your bodies, and it’s not like only one position is ordained by God. In fact, it's never even talked about in the Bible.
The missionary position is often thought to be “holier” because it allows the couple to kiss and look into each other's eyes at the same time. But so does the woman on top position, or the making love while sitting (or even standing) position. So that argument doesn't really hold water.
One couple uses the “Rule of 3” when making love 一they can’t make love more than three times in a row in the same position. They must switch it up, so that it doesn’t get boring. If you find it easier to orgasm in one particular position, that’s okay. Just use the other positions as foreplay. And here are the 6 most typical positions to try. Every other position is really a variant of one of these：
I.Man-on-Top
The “missionary position" you lie together, him on top, nose to nose, breast to breast.
Make it feel great:Tilt her hips up. Use a pillow if you want, but the important thing is to engage her muscles to apply pressure to the clitoris, not just to raise her hips.
Variations: She can put her legs on his back (or, if she’s flexible, On his shoulders. This allows deeper penetration).
2.Woman-on-Top
He lies down in bed, and she climbs on top of him in a sitting position.
Make it Feel Great: Let her determine the depth of thrusting and let her vary the angle until she gets the most contact with her clitoris. This position is best for women who are more nervous.
Variations: She can lie down against him, similar to missionary position but with her on top. The thrusting will then take more energy (and likely burn more calories). She can also vary how she sits. If she sits instead of kneels, she’ll get deeper penetration, too. For the really adventurous, she can turn around so she's facing his feet, leaning backwards against him. That way he can touch her breasts and her clitoris easily while she does the thrusting.
3.Sitting position
He sits, either against the bed or in a chair, and she straddles him.
Make it feel great: Lean backwards to change the angle a bit. Find an angle that works best for stimulating her.
Variations: Don’t lean against anything, but lock your legs around each other for stability. This one's a little more challenging, but the extra effort can be intense.
4.Woman lying down, man standing up
She lies down, with her legs hanging off of the bed. He stands between her legs. This allows for deeper penetration as well.
Make it feel great: Use lubrication! In this position he can thrust much more deeply than usual, and so make sure that it’s comfortable for her.
Variations: She lies down, he kneels on the bed between her legs.
5.Standing against a wall
She leans herself against a wall and wraps her legs around his torso for support. He stands facing her. This requires a lot of balance and strength, and often that detracts from the pleasure.
Make it feel great: This is more of a fun rip-your-clothes-off-I- can’t-wait-another-minute position rather than it is a positioner the whole encounter. It’s fun sometimes to start out this way, but you'll likely want to head over to the bed or a chair soon or you'll run out of steam.
Variations： She's on the kitchen counter or dresser, and he's standing. This is similar, although again, this is more of a position for a breathless encounter than it is a drawn out one that feels pleasurable for her.
6.Rear entry
She kneels on all fours on the bed. He kneels behind her, facing in the same direction. This position is the most difficult to get right, because sometimes you have to play around with the angle in order to achieve penetration. This isn’t a position to try early on your honeymoon, if you're a virgin on your wedding day. Get comfortable fitting together first. However, once you do fit together, some couples swear that this feels the most pleasurable.
Make it feel great: he can reach around and put a finger or two on her clitoris to increase stimulation for her. She can also vary the angle of her body so that the penis hits her at different angles. Some women find this is the best way to find the G-spot. And how do you know when you find it? He’ll be thrusting, and you’ll suddenly feel like you’re about to orgasm, even if you hadn't been that aroused yet already.
Variations: Lie in bed on your sides, facing the same direction, with him behind. This one is often the easiest during the latter stages of pregnancy.
Often a couple will find that one or two positions tend to be their favorites, because it's easier for her to reach orgasm using them. Yet trying and using new positions has benefits other than just orgasm. It makes sex more active and less routine. It can even increase intimacy because you say to your spouse, “I really want to explore you and know everything I can about how you work." It’s a new level of vulnerability, which can also increase our feeling of closeness.
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