We've introduced earlier that lifestyle, courage and communication are the three fundamentals in living a good life. According to the three fundamentals principle, have you realized that all men who struggle with relationships can fall into one of the two categories: socially anxious or socially disconnected.
Socially anxious men
Socially anxious men tend to have the communication quality very well. They're good at expressing themselves and are very aware of social norms and what others are thinking or feeling. Actually in a lot of cases, socially anxious men are too aware of what other people are thinking and feeling that they have a lot of social anxiety. They're afraid to speak to new women and they get nervous pushing things forward. They're even scared to ask women on dates. Generally speaking, once these men meet a woman who likes them, they do OK. They can converse with her all night. If she happens to be attracted to him, he's not such a mess. But it's just the actual being proactive and making a move that scares him to death. These kind of men usually spend most of their time focusing on overcoming fear and little time in expression.
Socially disconnected men
Men of this category are just the opposite to socially anxious men. They are who have always been a little bit oblivious to what others think and feel around them. They're guys who have always kept to themselves, grew up more interested in their studies or some nerdy subject than people around them.
What's interesting is that men who are socially disconnected have far less fear or anxiety when it comes to approaching, pursuing or escalating with women. Actually it's because they're so oblivious to social cues and what others are thinking/feeling that they're so fearless around them.
Socially disconnected men should learn how to express themselves and understand how people think and feel around them. They have little hesitance or fear for action. They tend to do the wrong actions at the wrong times over and over. But they rarely understand why.
Mutual relations between the three fundamentals
Lifestyle is all over the map and is a work-in-progress for everyone. The better your lifestyle is, the easier everything else will be. Ultimately you should be working on your lifestyle for yourself first and foremost.Side effects of your efforts in your lifestyle is that your attractiveness to women will be improved.
The second and third fundamentals (courage and communication) are intimately connected to one another. Anxious guys are anxious because they're so socially attuned to others while socially disconnected guys are fearless because they're socially disconnected from others.
To be a better man and live a much better quality life, you'd better improve your life with the three fundamental in a full package. You can learn to be socially connected and fearless at the same time, and have an awesome and attractive lifestyle. It's very hard but it's our life aim.
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